I chose to write about monitoring one’s communication because I think this is one of the opportunities most people can act on that will improve their interpersonal relationships. As a communications major, I feel empowered with every class that I take. I am constantly having “ah-ha” moments when I find myself pondering people’s reactions to something I said or why I reacted a certain way after I was triggered be a comment in a conversation.
As we learned in chapter one, communicating is not a linear process. There are many cues all happening at the same time in addition to verbal communication and active listening that must be monitored to allow you to respond in a manner that is receptive and appropriate. These non-verbal transmissions in addition to things such as emotional state, cultural identities, state of physical rest, state of nourishment etc. and they all combine into what makes up our responses as individuals.
Communication is like physical exercise in the manner that if don’t stay sharp on the techniques, you start to lose your edge. It is not easy to do when you are tired and you should always try to consider how someone else may feel about your response before reacting. Communicate with others how you would like to be communicated to and don’t be afraid to tell someone that you are unable to talk for whatever reasons. I have learned that sometimes it is easier to prevent things coming out of your mouth than trying to take them back later.
Monitoring communication is vital when having a conversation with people. When someone reacts poorly to what you have to say, that typically means that you have said something to upset them. This means that it is important to watch how people react to what you say to them. This is proof that the way we communicate is not linear, like you stated. Also, non-verbal transmissions can read just as loud as verbal communications. I like that you say that you should communicate with others the way you would want to be communicated too.
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