The last relationship I found myself in involved both love
and commitment on my side, while my partner held love but lacked commitment on
his side. Our relationship held many fun
times and we would talk about our future together which strengthened my commitment
as he was the one who would often bring up these talks. I think in order for commitment to last, both
partners need to be moving in the same direction in life and although we both
held similar goals, we were on two completely different playing fields. I wanted to start settling and he still
wanted to party so that was the end of that…
Although not ideal for me personally, I do not think
relationships that have commitment but not love are bad. Oftentimes arranged marriages or pragma type
love from online dating websites are beginnings to these types of
relationships. I think that once a
couple can decide on a solid foundation, love and respect can grow from
there. The strong completely practical
base lacks appeal to me however as I require passion and intimacy from a
partner prior to building a practical life in the future together.
I like your thoughts about love and commitment. I didn’t even think about arranged marriages and how they can start with commitment and possibly develop love. Many times in an arranged marriage love is not the beginning of the relationship. I agree with you when you say that a couple can start with a solid foundation and love grows from it. I think many relationships begin with passion and intimacy and then commitment grows through the years. This is how my relationship stated with my husband. We were very passionate in the beginning and then we fell in love and then we became committed to one another.
ReplyDeleteI love how you used personal experience so I could relate to how love and commitment play into our relationships. With my first boyfriend, we lacked love and commitment but we possessed infatuation. So can you tell me what's the difference between the three? As I've been growing up, I have never seen true love and dedicated commitment, it has all been taken for granted. You brought up a good point that a couple must be in the same ball game in order to be successful and go far. I like your post and will start considering things.
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