The idea that really grabbed my attention out of the reading
this week was the section discussing the development of friendship. According to the reading, there are 6
diagnoses of friendship: role limited interactions, friendly relations, moving
toward friendships, nascent friendships, stabilized friendships, and waning
friendships. I was actually kind of sad
to see that I really only have a few relationships I consider stabilized with
the majority falling into the moving towards friendship category. I have been thinking about this and I feel
like it is not because I have not had opportunities to have more stabilized
friendships but rather my limited time available to those stabilized
friendships that I already have. I have
two best friends that I spend the majority of my time with and until school
ends, I do not foresee many opportunities to get to know more people. I really enjoy meeting new people and
mingling in social situations so I look forward to graduating and being able to
have enough time to go out and be social again.
Although it was a somber realization, it really makes me appreciate
those stabilized friends I do have. Personally,
I would rather have 5 stabilized friends than 1,000 moving towards relationship
friends.
Like you, this section also caught my attention while reading the chapter. It amazed me how the book actually have 6 diagnoses of friendship and it's development. After reading the diagnoses, like you, I was shocked to see that I only had a few friendships that I consider stable. Although, I was shocked, I reminded myself that is better to have a few friends that know everything about you, than have a ton of fake friends that you open up to, yet they don't really care about you. I have learned that I am better off having 2-3 best friends and telling them everything, rather than having more friends who are capable of betraying me and hurting me.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree, I'm in the same situation to be honest. I have several friends that I consider "moving towards friendship" or "nascent friendship". Although I do feel somewhat close to these friends I would not consider them to be "stabilized" friendships. I can only think of maybe three friends I have that could be considered stable friendships. While it may be sort of sad to realize, as you mentioned, I find that I actually prefer things that way. That way I can focus on those friendships more and keep them at a good, stable point. I enjoy having only a few very close friends.
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