The
concept that I have decided to write about this week is about not owning
feelings. I chose this concept because
it really reminded me of an exercise we did in a mediation class that has
forever changed my interpersonal relationships in a positive manner. The exercise included clearing communication
by utilizing the template: I feel ,
when ,
because , and
I need you to . When I read the section about not owning
feelings, I realized that this is a huge problem that many people are unable to
even realize that they have. I may not
have even realized this was a good route if I had never taken the mediation
class in the first place.
Owning
feelings and being able to communicate clearly about what one feels and what
one needs is essential in maintaining good relationships. The same statement used for mediation above
works to own your feelings. No matter the
method, it is important to accept responsibility for your feelings, attempt to
communicate what you feel clearly, and try to offer a well thought out solution
that is mutually satisfying, meeting needs of both parties.
I agree with you that owning feelings is very important. By taking control of our emotions we are able to better understand what we are feelings, why, and how we can fix it. We truly have to be able to reflect inwardly and see the true cause of our emotions whether it's happiness, pain, sadness, frustration or anger. Harnessing those emotions and seeing what actions must be take to solve it is a powerful tool. On a side note, I think it's really cool you took a meditation class! I think it's awesome to really focus in on our self and our mental, spiritual, and physical state in order to bring out the best in ourselves. Nice post!
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